Build Resilience the Wise Woman Way
c. 2015 Susun Weed
1. Collect butterflies. Butterflies are those who have undergone transformation and thrived. Butterflies are usually older than we are. (Mimic someone who is resilient.*)
Motherwort tincture is a true friend during times of upheaval, upset, and trauma.
2. Hum like a bee. Chant to the great Mystery, the All, the Void. Play an instrument. Sing. Let sound carry you into peace and the present. (Don’t beat yourself up or dwell on the past.)
Linden, sweet linden flower, healer of the heart, friend of the bees, heal my heart now.
3. Embrace your fears. Build true self-worth by accepting yourself. (Recognize what makes you uniquely strong and own it.)
Lovage is for courage.
4. Nourish yourself – in all ways. The more severe the stress, the more important it is to be nourished in body, mind, and spirit. (Develop a core set of beliefs that nothing can shake.)
Nettle nourishes every aspect of my physical, energetic, and auric bodies.
5. Weave yourself into the web. Let others know when what is happening is too much for you to bear alone. Share wonderful things too. (Be quick to reach for support when things go haywire.)
Comfrey knits our bones and connective tissues, family bonds, and community ties
6. Expand into pain; resist contraction. Accept help. Open yourself to love. (Don’t run from things that scare you: face them.)
Red clover expands breathing and helps the brain create chemicals of connection.
7. Stay on the sunny side. Walk it off. Grief is a huge energy. Pump iron. The best revenge is joy. (Find an exercise regime you will stick to.)
Hypericum tincture is the sunny side in a bottle. I use it liberally to ease pain in my muscles and misery in my mood.
8. Keep expanding. Keep learning. Challenge yourself in little ways. Stretch often, mentally and physically. Overcome resistance. (Learn new things as often as you can.)
Violet leaf infusion eases away rigidity in body and soul.
9. Write your own story. Star in your own unique and precious life. (Try to maintain a positive outlook. Find meaning in whatever stressful or traumatic thing has happened.)
A cup of bright red hibiscus tea, cold or hot, tart or sweetened, heals the heart and enhances the imagination.
*( Words in parentheses are from Time article by Mandy Oaklander.)